Hello lovely people, it has surely been a while I posted. I was thinking on a random topic to blog about, few topics crossed my mind but only one got my attention: “CHEATING”.

All of a sudden, cheating has become increasingly easier than breathing. Why do people cheat without any form of consideration of the effects on their loved ones?

I drew out some of the factors I think encourage individuals to make a foray into this shameful act.

—-» COMPLACENCY: Your partner may begin to take you for granted, he/she stops appreciating and complementing you, stops telling you how much he loves you. In such situation, the confidence level on the relationship begins to drain, you begin to feel less attractive to yourself especially if when you were single you had a lot of suitors, who always fell over themselves only to get your attention. Then comes along someone out of the blue who compliments you on a regular basis, telling you how beautiful you look. Before you realize it, you begin to dance to the tune, dressing for him/her and looking your best anytime you go seeing him/her. His/her compliment about you begins to increase your self-beauty or confidence. Before you know it, you start having a side-relationship.

—-» TREATMENT : A lot of people are actually single in a relationship. Your partner mistreat you just because you want to have a relationship. Your first reaction may be to get at him/her, especially in a relationship where you have complained more than you have talked. Your only instincts may be to get you away from your partner, although sometimes things can be too complicated. One of the most natural reaction is to run into an open arms of someone who seems to be treating you right. For some, revenge is the ultimate solution. “If he cheats on me, I will cheat on him too”. So if your partner continues to cheat on you and hurt you, should you pay him back in his coin?

—-»THRILL: As strange as it may sound, some people just love to live on the edge. They enjoy every good thing life has to offer, cheating inclusive. It is more of an adventure than immorality to them. Most people fall into this group, they have the inch-perfect relationship still, they want to eat their cake and still have it. They just seem to cherish the thought of being naked with someone new.
 
—-» CHALLENGING TIMES: Situations that we find ourselves may get to us especially during very difficult and challenging times. At such times, we may get confused and lonely. The understanding, availability and attention we get from other people tends to influence our actions which makes one get into relationship we never planned.

—-» FRIENDS: This is by far the most influencing factor. Like they say, “Friends can either make or break you”. Never underestimate the power of friends to convince. If your partner’s friend have negative feelings about you, they may go the extra mile in setting up on a blind date just to make you meet the person they feel is perfect for you.

There are many other reasons people cheat, too little attention, too much attention from other party, fear, boredom, insecurity among others. We may not all understand why people cheat on a cheating partner.